Confessions of The Peace Coaches

I have a ConFeSsiOn.  You know Popeye’s famous line, “I’ve had all I can stands, I can’t stands no more.” . . . ?

Yep, that pretty much describes me.

A little over a week ago, Lara and I celebrated a big success – we published our book:  Peace with Food:  Eat What You Want. Never Diet Again.  Live a Happy Life.  A book that we had been working on for over three years.  That was a HuGE win for us.

But the thrill of victory, for me, was short lived because almost immediately after publishing our book I was jolted with this harsh reality:  although we had found the key to Peace with Food, I had No PeAcE with My TiMe and my schedule!  And I’m a Peace Coach!!

No Peace

It’s not for a lack of trying.  I have tried numerous time-management methods, to no avail.

And not for a lack of accomplishment.  I am a consummate tracker of my progress.  I journal and I track.  Have been doing so for years.  And I’ve accumulated a lot of checkmarks.

Give me a graph-paper notebook and it’s like giving a baby candy.  For some reason, checking those little boxes is SO very motivating for me to such a degree that I file away those checkoff lists so I can see all the things I have accomplished.

Motivating, yes, but satisfying in the deepest part of the soul, no.  In regards to my time and my schedule there is a nagging sense that I am far from my target.  That I am MiSsiNg SoMeThiNg.  As Bill Hybels would say, a holy discontent.

I want to go from successfully checking off my checkmarks to SiGniFiCaNcE and SouL SaTisFacTion.

So, what now?

The awesome thing, is that in our search for peace with food, Lara and I discovered that the principles we used are transferable to the rest of life!

So, back to the drawing board I go.  I’m embarking on a new journey.  This time, my focus is to find peace with my time and my schedule and here’s how I intend to do that by using the peace principles Lara and I discovered in finding Peace with Food:

1.) Know myself – I have been doing a lot of ReFleCtiNg and soul searching.  The first half of this post describes my discoveries to date.  I will continue to reflect and record throughout this journey

2.) Educate myself – I will be spending a lot of time in the next months and possibly even the next few years on this subject.  Here is some of what I plan to do:

  • Read John C. Maxwell’s new book, Intentional Living the  moment it comes out this fall!  I also plan on doing his 7- Day Experiment and 30-Day Challenge that coincides with the book.
  • Speak to my MenToRs about how they have found peace with their time and schedule.
  • Read other books on this subject.
  • Of course, I can’t leave out the GoD FacToR.  This will actually be my first go-to.  I’ll use what I call the PR36 Principle:  (Proverbs 3:6)

3.) Experiment – I will continually be experimenting with the input and insight I get from mentors and the books I read to see what works best for me.  I’ll also be trying some different systems such as Stephen Covey’s.

That being said, the most important thing is this: I don’t just want a new system, a new plan, or the latest and greatest technique that promises me that I will be able to get more done in less time.

No, I want something on the InSiDe Of Me To ChAnGe, specifically the way I look at my time, knowing that this life is very short and each moment that passes is one that will never come my way again.

Stay tuned. . . I’m a WoRk In ProGrEsS and I will continue to update you on my journey.  🙂

Your Robynn

 

 

Do you have peace with your time and schedule?  If so, please share!

Day 28 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} The Power of Progress Points

 

Have a bias toward action – let’s see something happen now. You can break that big plan into small steps and take the first step right away.
~Indira Gandhi

Day 28 - 90

Change can be slow.  Painfully slow.  But from time to time it’s good to take note of your PrOgrEsS PoiNts – all those little improvements you’ve made over an extended period of time that are so tiny, that if you weren’t intentionally looking for them you would miss them.

One progress point I have on the map is DriNkiNg H2O.  A little over a year ago I gave up diet cola which I miss greatly, but I did so, because it gave me severe headaches.  It took me years to finally kick the habit, but I did it.  And now I drink tons of H2O.

That was a huge progress point for me, but I also have many small ones such as drinking a cup of green tea with sweetener.

What say you?  What are your progress points – both BiG oNeS aNd SmAll OnEs?

Once you plot them you may be surprised to see that you are making progress.  If on the other hand, you realize that you aren’t making any progress, then why not begin today having a BiAs FoR aCtiOn?

Keep at your 1% Change and let’s make it a great day!

Hashtag to self:  #biastowardaction

Your Robynn

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

Day 25 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Peaceful Mind

 

Life is a series of steps. Things are done gradually. Once in a while there is a giant step, but most of the time we are taking small, seemingly insignificant steps on the stairway of life.
~Ralph Ransom

Day 25 -90

Ugh!!  Have a knee injury so I am not working out.  😦

That is a FrOwN-y FaCe because I really like working out.  It really makes me food good in sooo many ways.

But on the BriGhT SiDe, I have been eating well.  🙂

The meals, at the conference I’m at, have been buffet style, so I have been going for fruits, vegetables, and protein.  Because I am coming off of a couple of rough eating days and want to get right back on track, I am staying away from eating a lot of carbs.  That’s okay, because turns out they are Mr. Right-There foods anyway, so I don’t mind passing on them.   If I did have sweets calling my name, I would plan for them (I may have a donut from Dunkin’ Donuts tomorrow in the airport), but SuRpRiSe, SuRpRiSe!! this girl who loves sweets is not desiring them!  That is a testament to giving myself permission to eat whatever I want as long as it gives peace.  This took me a lot of practice, but I am finally starting to nail it.

This CoNcEpT is HuGe.  I really don’t have out-of-control urges for food anymore because I never feel like I have a mental stock-pile of foods that I am craving, or planning to binge on,

I’ve learned that porking out, for the most part, was due to cause and effect – denying myself of the food I loved resulting in spiraling out of control.

MiRaCuLoUsLy, when I began to give myself the foods I desired (in a controlled manner that gave peace) the effect was satisfaction, closure, and peace.

No more food fantasies!  I love it that my mind is not obsessed with thoughts of foods!

Ahhhh, finally a PeAcEfUL MiNd!

Hashtag to self:  #peacefulmind

Your Robynn

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.  For the next post in this series click HERE.

 

Day 23 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Get Understanding

 

You must take personal responsibility.  You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.  That is something you have charge of.
~Jim Rohn

Day 23 - 90

Today is a fresh start.  And I have a BriGhT OutLooK.  🙂

I’m at a conference, in Atlanta, where I am becoming a Certified Human Behavior Consultant by one of mentors, Dr. Robert A. Rohm.

One of the things that I have heard Dr. Rohm say over and over is, “AbOvE aLL eLsE, get understanding.”  This training is teaching us how to UndeRsTaNd OuRseLvEs aNd OtHers.  I’m hoping I can use this incredible wisdom and apply it to Peace with Food.

As I think about this statement, “Above all else, get understanding.”, I realize that HeReIn LiEs tHe SeCrEt to Peace with Food – Get Understanding.  Until you understand yourself and your relationship to food, your body, the scale, and your thoughts on this subject, as well as how to Follow Peace, you can never experience Peace with Food.  It really is that simple.

I have come to learn that the more understanding I have, the more peace I have.

Hashtag to self:  #getunderstanding

Your Robynn

 

 

 

(P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series CLICK HERE.)

 

Day 19 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Hang On

 

{This post is for the person of faith.  If that’s not you, no worries.  You can read it if you like or simply bypass it.}

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
James 1:2-4 (NIV)

Day 19 - 90Wow.  Things don’t seem to be letting up at all.  Today I am facing such great discouragement.  I’m down.  Maybe even sad.

It doesn’t help that it is a downpour outside.  And on top of that there is other stuff going on in my life that contributes to tHe FuNk.

My father had emergency brain surgery this past week.  At times we didn’t know if he would make it.

I feel like I have been punched in the stomach and have had all the air knocked out of me.  BUT, I’m holding on.  Today I am specifically holding on to hope by saying James 1:2-4 out loud over and over and reminding myself that the testing of my faith produces perseverance.  Yes, this test is producing the very thing I am after!

If you find yourself in a season of funk, HaNg On.  This ride won’t last forever.

If, on the other hand, life is bliss, I hope to join you soon.  You can just file this away for down the road when you are facing a rainy day.

However you find yourself today, know I’m thinking of ya and SeNdiNg a PrAyEr that you’ll be strengthened and encouraged as you FoLLoW PeAcE.

Hashtag to self:  #hangon

Your Robynn

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

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Living the Dream

 

People talk about LiViNg tHe DrEaM.  Of course, Living the Dream means different things for different people.  What does it mean to you?  What would your life look like if you were Living the Dream?  What is standing in the way of that image becoming your reality?

Living the Dream for me is living a life of FrEeDoM aNd PeAcE.  This is a BiG dEaL for me because these qualities were so elusive for much of my life.  And now that I have them, my passion is to help others experience them as well.

For much of my adult life I struggled with overeating.  I lived in the ReLeNtLeSs PuRsUiT of finding peace and freedom with eating, but my efforts always seemed in vain.  Four or five years ago I was so frustrated that I determined I would find peace and freedom with food if it were the last thing I did.

Lara joined me in the PeAcE WiTh FoOd journey and we contracted with ourselves and each other that we would never diet again.  I even wrote out a contract and signed it.  My dieting days were over.

Our approach was simple.  We would become scientists, determining what worked and what didn’t.  Nothing was off limits.  Our only criteria was that we would FoLLoW PeAcE.

In the course of what I call my SeVeN yEaR ExPeriMenT I lost probably close to 20 pounds seven different times.  That’s a total of 140 pounds!!  If I tabulated how much weight I have lost and then regained, in the course of my life, I think it is quite possible that number would be in the thousands.  No joke.

I have always been able to lose the weight.  That’s not the issue.  Hey, you can loose weight a million-and-one ways (check out the Twinkie Diet!) if you limit your calories.  But rather, my focus was on what would keep me in the game.  What could I do for life?  I was intrigued with experimenting with as many plans as possible.  I wanted to know what worked and what didn’t.  Any eating strategy that didn’t offer a LiFeTiMe SaTisFacTion guarantee was a deal-breaker for me.

Today, Lara and I are experiencing freedom and peace.  We are Living the Dream.  And we want to share with you how you too can have freedom and peace with food.  (And with life for that matter!)

On August 22nd our book, Peace with Food:  Eat What You Want. Never Diet Again. Live a Happy Life. – which has been over three years in the making – is being released!

To say we are excited is an understatement.

During the pre-launch stage we shared our book with dozens of people and our hypothesis was correct:  Peace with Food was life-changing.  Turns out it had the same impact on others that it had on us.

Peace with Food has changed our lives.  It is changing others’ lives.   And it CaN cHaNge YoUr Life too!

Do you have Peace with Food?  Are you Living the Dream?

If not, won’t you come take the journey with us?

You can have P E A C E.

You can be F R E E.

And you can live your BeSt LiFe EvEr!

Your Robynn

 

 

 

 

Day 14 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} The Two Strongest Warriors

Day 14 - 90

This morning I’m sitting at my table with a CuP oF HoT tEa, gazing out the window.  It is a beautiful morning here and the quietness and peace beckons me to stay for a while.  Just a couple of months ago, one of my mentors, Scott M. Fay, encouraged me to spend some time ReFleCtiNg.

Cup Tea

And that is exactly what I am doing. Reflecting on what I read this morning in Emotional Intelligence 2.0 {the chapter entitled Sleep On It} which began with the following:

“In the timeless classic, War and Peace, Leo Tolstoy wrote that the two strongest warriors are time and patience.”

 That spoke to me as this is exactly what my 1% Change {perseverance} is all about – time and patience!  It’s actually ironic, but something in me wishes there was a quick fix to time and patience.  How crazy is that!  The achievement side of me just wants to just RiP iT LiKe a BaNd-AiD and be done with it!

But I am beginning to understand that as uncomfortable and painful as waiting is, this is the very thing that works out the impatience and the quick-fix mindset I have.

TiMe aNd PaTieNcC.

Like the shot you hate to get, but are so glad you did when it’s all said and done.

Hashtag to self:  #timeandpatience

Your Robynn

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

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Day 7 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Choose Mr. Right!

Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war.
~Donald Trump

Day 7 - 90

Went to a wedding and messed up BiG TiMe!   😦

The main reason I over ate was because ever since I signed a contract with myself {three years ago} that I would never diet again, something in me rebels when I do anything that looks like a diet {like pass on WeDDiNg CaKe}.  The problem is that sometimes I take this to the extreme the other way and will even tell myself, Go ahead and eat it.  You are free to eat whatever you want.  Although this is true, much of what I was eating was not what I really wanted.  It was Mr. Right-Now food versus Mr. RiGhT food.  Ughhhh!!!

Bummer!!  This mess up really broke my string of successes and ultimately my momentum which I so desperately needed.  However, am reminding myself that failure actually turns out to be a good thing if I learn from it.  This is confirmation #171 that I have to eat in the BoUnDaRiEs of my points or I lose all peace.

Time to focus on my 1% Change – Perseverance!

Hashtag to self:  #stopwastingyourcalories

Your Robynn

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

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Day 6 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} The Hallmark of Excellence

 

The hallmark of excellence, the test of greatness, is consistency.
~Jim Tressel

Day 6 - 90

Sooooo working on being CoNsiStEnT!  My focus in this 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} is developing the SkiLL of perseverance.  And one way I am working on developing this skill is to reset after a slip up.  Instead of throwing in the towel I want to get right back on track and keep on keeping on.  Huge challenge for me, Miss All-Or-Nothing Girl I am!  Please help me God!

What about you?  How consistent are you in the area that you’re focusing on for a 1% Change?  Do you need to be more consistent?

Hashtag to self:  #beconsistent

Your Robynn

 

 

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

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