Day 58 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} How to Stream-Line

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker.  Failure is delay, not defeat.  It is a temporary detour, not a dead end.  Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.
~Denis Waitley

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Do you ever feel like you are SpInNiNg pLaTeS and it won’t be long until they all come crashing down?  I can’t tell you how many times I have found myself in that predicament.  My personality type has tendencies to over-commit.  I impulsively say “Yes” to something and then realize shortly thereafter, “Oops.  I should have never agreed to this!”

In the last few years I have taken some time to learn more about myself.  After all, one of the principles of Peace with Food is KnOw YoUrSeLf.  In this process I have come to understand HoW I Am WiReD and the strengths and weaknesses inherent with that wiring.  And I have also had a lot of failures.

But these failures have served a HiGhEr PuRpOsE.  They have helped me peel the onion so to speak – getting me more StReAm-LiNeD aNd SmArTeR as to what works and what doesn’t.

When I started this journey I began with a huge gap between where I was regarding Peace With Food and where I wanted to be.  With each “failure” {a.k.a mess up, throw in the towel, slip up} I close that gap a little bit more by CrEaTiNg A sYsTeM that eliminates the little foxes that tripped me up.   (I talked about little foxes – those little things that seem so insignificant, but that make the biggest difference – in my last post.)

This is what stream lining is all about.  It is removing those little things that cause the biggest problems and instead creating what my mentor, John C. Maxwell, calls systems.  Here is his definition of a system:

A process for predictably achieving a goal based on specific, orderly, repeatable principles and practices.
{From The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth page 109}

One example of a system that you no doubt will be able to relate to is our system of traffic lights in the US.  When you approach an intersection, you don’t have to think about what you need to do.  You just AuToMaTiCaLLy go if the light is green and stop if it is red.  No indecisiveness.  No hesitancy.  Instead you know exactly what to do.

How would you like to have systems in place that take away the second guessing and indecisiveness?  Systems that are intentional and purposeful, ultimately helping you AcHiEvE YoRr GoaLs and honor your priorities?

Life just runs smoother with systems.

Stay tuned to my next post.  I will share with you some of my systems to help give you ideas for creating your own systems.  But in the meantime, ask yourself:

What systems do I have in place?

System for BrEaFfAsT?

System for snacking?

System for getting my kids up and OuT tHe DoOr to school in the morning and doing it in P E A C E!

System for dealing with temptation?

System for going to the grocery store?

Do you have systems?  Are they EfFeCtiVe?

Your Robynn

 

 

 

P.S. For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

For the next post in this series click HERE.

Compliment Etiquette

How do you respond when someone gives you a compliment?  Do you shrug your shoulders, shake your head, start laughing, or just deny that the compliment is true?  Have you ever given someone a compliment who responded in this way?  How did it make you feel? 

When I was a camp counselor in college, people would compliment my singing talent quite often.  I never made a big deal about it, and come to think of it, at times I don’t even think I said “thank you.” It probably sounded more like “Oh. Well, I had a good music teacher.” It wasn’t until someone called me out on it that I realized how my responses were rude to the person giving them, let alone to myself and God!

Being HuMbLe is a quality that God wants us to possess, but being COURTEOUS in our response is also important.  If someone gives us a compliment, whether we agree with them or not, we need to be kind in our reply.  A simple “Thank you” will do, allowing you to be a gracious and humble receiver.

Some people don’t accept compliments well because they don’t like to be in the spotlight.  If that is the case for you, remember that all of our talents or successes in life are because God blessed us with them.  He gives each of us a talent whether it is a quality singing voice, a warming smile, or being a good listener.  By saying “THANK YOU” not only does it show appreciation to the person giving the compliment, but also thanks God for the wonderful qualities he has given us!

Next time someone says something N I C E try responding with confidence and appreciation!  It will not only make you feel better but will encourage others to continue sharing a good word!

Your Lara

Day 55 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Catch the Little Foxes

Failure, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement.  One fails forward toward success.
~C.S. Lewis

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I love this quote because, to me, it EpiToMiZes tHe JoUrNeY I have been on.  My failures were indeed the finger posts pointing me to achievement.  When I was TeAcHabLe and maintained the right attitude, they served as incredible and effective teachers.  Then, and only then, did I learn the valuable lesson they were teaching me!  And as crazy as it sounds, they are responsible for helping me find Peace with Food.

One of the reasons failure is So PoWerFuL {if you let it teach you} is because it requires you to take a long look at the little things tripping you up and keeping you from success.  I like to call these little things tHe LiTtLe FoXeS which I got from a passage found in Song of Solomon 2:15 (CJB) which says,

Catch the foxes for us, yes, the little foxes!  They are ruining the vineyards when our vineyards are in bloom! 

It truly is the little things that make All tHe DiFfErEnCe.  Ever since I started the Peace with Food journey I have been identifying the difference makers – my little foxes.

In my next post I will talk about how I use those little foxes to help me StReAm LiNe and CrEaTe SuCcEsSfUl SyStEmS, but in the meantime, let me ask you this:

Can you identify the little foxes in your life?

What trips you up in PeAcE WiTh FoOd?

Your FiNaNcEs?

ReLaTiOnShiPs?

PrOfEsSiOnAlly?

PeRsOnAlly?

Answering this question is Step #1.  It TaKeS CoUrAgE to look inside and admit your weaknesses, but without it you can never MoVe FoRwArD, so be courageous!

What are your “little foxes”?

Your Robynn

 

 

 

P.S. For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

For the next post in this series click HERE.

Day 52 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Funkville

Inaction breeds doubt and fear.  Action breeds confidence and courage.  If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it.  Go out and get busy.
~Dale Carnegie

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Have you ever had one of those days where everything seemed to be humming along just fine when {{BAMB!}} out of the blue you get hijacked by those obnoxious intruders also known as cruddy feelings?

Well, that describes my day today.  Talk about being blind-sided.  Just a few hours earlier I had a convo with Lara that had fired us both up as we talked about the future of Peace with Food and plans for the future.

Life was great!

Then came ThE HiJaCk.

I really don’t know what brought it on, but instantly I was transported to Funkville.  Ever been there?  I was overcome with ambivalent, vague, and LoUsY FeeLiNgS.

Is this really happening?  Just hours ago I was on a high and now I am feeling pretty low – no energy, no motivation, no spark whatsoever.

So I did the only thing I knew to do.  SaiD a PrAyEr and then RiPpEd It LiKe a BaNd-AiD.  Yes, I  got to work. There was no way I was going to let the Funk get the best of me.

And true to form, after awhile I realized that those crazy intruders were gone.  I was living life in color again.

Next time you encounter the hijack, why not give this system a try?  Or come up with your own.  Just find that something that helps you ExiT OuT Of FuNkViLLe.

Your Robynn

 

Take-Home Message:  Battle the funk with action.

P.S. For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

For the next post in this series click HERE.

 

 

Coconut Peanut Butter Balls

Here is another FAVORITE! I get so many compliments on these.

Coconut Peanut Butter Balls

Combine the following into a large bowl:
1 C. Oatmeal
1/2 C. Peanut Butter
1/3 C. Honey
1 C. Coconut Flakes
1/2 C. Ground Flaxseed
1/2 C. Mini Chocolate Chips
1 tsp. Vanilla

Directions: After thoroughly mixed, use a 1″ cookie scoop to form balls on a baking sheet covered with parchment paper. Get your hands slightly wet and roll each scoop to make completely round balls. Put baking sheet in the freezer until all balls are completely frozen. Remove from sheet and store in gallon-sized ziploc bag in freezer. It’s a great grab-and-go breakfast or snack! Enjoy!

*Instead of lining a baking sheet with parchment paper, I use the underside of the plastic lid that came with my 9×13 baking dish. This makes for quick and easy cleanup, and the balls don’t stick to the surface after freezing.

*You don’t have to freeze your balls when storing–you could store them in the fridge–but I find that I enjoy them more when they are cold and it forces me to eat them slower 😉

*If you don’t like coconut, leave it out. With that said, I have had many people say they aren’t fans of coconut but don’t notice it in these, so they kept it in.

*Remember, if you don’t like some of the above ingredients, omit or swap them out with something else! PWF is all about finding what works for you, so don’t be afraid to tweak the above to your liking 🙂

Want to check out more of my go-to recipes? Click here!

 

Your Lara

Day 43 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Won’t Let Go

Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
~William Feather

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HeLp!!  

Boy, oh boy, am I struggling.  I don’t see any progress and I want to quit, but where in the world would I go and what would I do?  I am so hungry for my dream.  It propels me forward.  My PuRpOsE PuShEs Me OnWaRd. I know for me, quitting would amount to about a day and then I would be back at it.  So what else can I do but keep pressing on?

*Sigh*

But seriously, I am seeing nooooooo progress.  I feel like I am expending so much energy with nothing to show for it.  This is so unbearable that I just want to explode out of my own skin.  Can I let out a big AHHHGGGGGHHH!!!!  

GeT a gRiP, RoByNn!

SoMeHoW, SoMeWaY this challenge is going to catapult you forward, but how in the world is it going to do that?!  I don’t know, but I just know that there is a higher purpose for me going through this difficulty, so I’m HaNgiNg On.  Won’t let go.

Hashtag to self:  #wontletgo

Your Robynn

P.S. For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

For the next post in this series click HERE.

Goodbye Joneses! Hello Freedom!

So here’s the truth: I have never considered myself to be a very good writer.  When I first started blogging and writing 4+ years ago it was easy to give up because of the following thoughts:  What if people think my posts are horrible?  What if someone thinks I’m not very SmArT? What if someone doesn’t like my writing style?

Although writing is a bit out of my CoMFOrT zone, I know I’m never going to be a good writer unless I work at it and have someone critique me.  Society influences make us think we need to be perfect, but look how many of these thoughts keep us from doing what we really want to do?

For example, let’s say you were feeling the need to be on a budget with your finances. For a moment you considered taking a deeper look at your current situation but then, after a few minutes, you talked yourself out of it. The thoughts in your head sounded something like this: “What if I traded in my new car for something older and used that money to pay off my credit cards?  Forget it…I can’t bear looking silly driving a car that is more than 5 years old!”  Sound familiar?

You’ve probably heard the quote ‘what would you do if you knew you could not fail?’  So many of the reasons why we never attempt to answer that question is because we are worried about what everyone else thinks. But what does it really matter what others think?  Can you really call the people who don’t support you, “F R I E N D S“?  Why surround yourself with people who aren’t going to encourage and support you in doing what is best for YOU?  This is YOUR LIFE. You have the power to choose how you want to live it.  Don’t give in to society.  Follow what is in your heart.

So whatever life change you want to make (drastic or not), remind yourself of WHY you are doing it.  Don’t live in misery because of what everyone else thinks. Don’t limit yourself on the things you want to accomplish because the Joneses are standing on your doorstep. I’ve been there too.  It’s okay.  It’s normal.  Acknowledge this challenge and ChAnGe your way of thinking by taking control of your life. Get excited about feeling F R E E and the rest will come.  Trust me. 🙂

Your Lara

*By the way, this is a  picture of me and my daughter when she was a little girl . #myheartismelting

F R E E D O M is F U N!

I Am Not a Good Mom

Messy Table

Okay.  I have been thinking about this for awhile and I just have to write about it.

Have you ever thought or said, “I FeeL LiKe I Am NoT a GooD MoM.”?

This statement is front and center right now because recently a couple of my friends have said that very thing to me.  These are not people I would ever put into the “bad mom” category.  Not for a moment.  But due to the MeSsiNeSs Of Life, things haven’t’ been going as planned.

I must admit, I have felt this same thing more times than I can count.

It is in times like this I must remind myself that the enemy of our soul is an accuser.  He uses whatever we are doing to leverage it against us.

We leave the dishes in the sink to play with our kids and he accuses us that our house is a disaster and we are lazy.  We do the dishes and tell our kids to go play and he tells us we are neglectful of our kids. Never will a day come when he stops accusing because that’s what accusers do – they accuse.

So what is a mom (or dad, wife, friend or any other person for that matter) suppose to do?  RuN To YoUr AdVoCaTe  (John 14:26 The Amplified Version).  The one who has your back and is fighting your case before the only righteous and completely just judge – God Almighty.  Romans 8:34 (NIV) says, “Who then is the one who condemns?  No OnE.  Christ Jesus who died – is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.”

This verse simply flicks off our accuser like an insignificant pest.

So ignore the accuser.  God’s got your back.

Your Robynn

Day 37 – 1% Change {90-Day Challenge} Who Are Your Mentors?

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
~Jim Rohn

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So, if you are the average of the FiVe PeOpLe you spend the most time with, what kind of person are you?  Do you like the person you have become?

That’s a deep question, I know, but it is definitely worth taking the time to think about.  What kind of people do you HaNg OuT WiTh?  Are they people you aspire to be like?  Do they challenge you to do better than you are doing and go further than you are going?

If you’ve been reading my 1% Change {90-Day Challenge}, you may have noticed that I talk about My MeNtOrS from time to time.  These are individuals that in many ways are living the life that I want to live.  They have a vast amount of wisdom.  And because they are further down the road than I am, their input is of utmost importance.

I remember when I first read Jack Canfield (author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series) talk about the importance of mentors in his book The Success Principles.  It stirred in me the desire to have mentors of my own.  I didn’t have any mentors at the time, and really didn’t know who even to ask.  So I UsEd tHe ReSoUrCeS I HaD and enlisted mentors whose material I could read, watch, or listen to.  People like John C. Maxwell, who although they didn’t know me, were passing on their wisdom and experience.

That was a few years ago and today I now have a handful of personal mentors, but it all began by using what I had.

Who are your mentors?  Maybe the first question to ask is, “What kind of person do you AsPiRe To BeCoMe?”  Once you know that question, then you can find the mentor that best fits and begin to learn from them.

It really is true.  You become like the people you spend your time with.  So ChOoSe WiSeLy.  🙂

P.S. You are seeing a snapshot of my life taken earlier this summer.  For the previous post in this series click  HERE.

For the next post in this series click HERE.

Your Robynn